There’s this weird tendency among fandom types where they’ll take a character, and insist that they are fans of them, before changing their design, age, pronouns, backstory, blood type, species, hometown, favorite color, zodiac sign, medical history, and every other facet of their being.
They will then violently insist that this version is superior to the canon one and act like they “fixed” them and it’s like. Buddy that’s not the same character anymore. That’s just your own oc commiting identity fraud. Like. I get the desire to experiment with different interpretations of a story. But first of all it’s okay to just make an original character if that’s what you really want to do. And second of all, are you even really a fan of the character you “fixed” if they’re a completely different person afterwards?
Like. Idk dude for somebody who claims to be a fan you sure don’t seem to like them as they are :/
Gonna remember “buddy that’s not the character that’s your OC committing identity fraud.”
I wish I could tell Redditors that their abusive parent, in all likelihood, did not have a real diagnosable personality disorder and that armchair diagnosing them with a cluster b personality disorder and then villainizing the mentally ill is not helping anyone. What happened to “my dad was an asshole. a fucking bastard. a jerk who hurt me very badly.” why is it now “my father was a malignant narcissist. I was a victim of narcissistic abuse, not just emotional and physical child abuse. he definitely had NPD and that’s why he was so evil. and I know because I read it online”.
There are many people did have abusive and/or neglectful parents who happened to be struggling with a real, tangible, diagnosed mental illness. It can be helpful to look back and think and know “Some of my parent’s behavior was exacerbated by their hoarding disorder, chronic depression, substance use disorder etc etc. That is an explanation but not an excuse. It was their responsibility to protect me, to try to get better and they failed. They did not continue to hurt me because they were unwell but because they were abusive and selfish. I have a genetic and environmental predisposition to develop the same illness and behaviors so I’m hyperaware of my own health and relationship to keep the cycle from repeating.” but that’s not what the whole ‘narcissistic abuse’ community is about. It’s the opposite of introspective and empathetic and mental health conscious and socially aware.
“this is the gay transgender website” “this is the communism website” “this is the supernatural website” wrong. wrong this is the people arguing with made-up versions of your post website
this is your reminder to start slow and gradually lean into consistency rather than to change your entire routine one fine day. it’s okay to start wherever and whenever you feel ready. please don’t compare yourself to the highlight reel of people on social media. i promise it’s never too late to work on your goals. you don’t have to make a drastic change just because it’s a new year. time is a social construct and i want nothing more than for you to truly enjoy life at present without worrying too much about the future. you are completely able to achieve goals you have set for yourself, but take it step by step. please avoid burnout and please take rest. wishing you all the best!!
As someone who’s had to make hard decisions about what things in my life to prioritise, I also strongly advise you to ignore people’s self flagellation on social media. That self flagellation carries the same messaging as the highlight reel: “if you don’t get an A+ in every area of your life, you should be ashamed of yourself.” Screw that, actually.
i gotta say i agree that exposing children to algorithmic content feeds is going to make them grow up with one billion new kinds of mental illnesses and it’s a serious societal problem that urgently needs addressing but it makes me v. v. v. uneasy when i see posts going around that identify this issue and come to the conclusion ‘this is why it’s important for parents to know what their kid is doing online’ and uh girls there are a lot of kids out there who would be dead if their parents knew what they were doing online
“yeah this aspect of capitalism is extremely alienating and traumatizing” and im nodding and smiling and then they add “which is why we must retreat to the safety of the family” and i start abruptly high-pitched screaming like a fire alarm
ALT
